Dream Reader

For my Blogging 101 course, the assignment for today is: Publish a post for your dream reader, and include a new-to-you element in it.

First of all I figured I should probably figure out who this dream reader would be before I try to write to them. It took me about .0 seconds before I knew exactly who my dream readers were. This might sound weird, but my dream readers are women who are feeling insecure, disempowered, or just low for any reason. Simply put, I want them to read my words and feel empowered and strong.

Ever since I started to understand and see the hugely negative effects of sexism and misogyny in my late teens, I have had this immensely strong desire to help women rise above the struggles they face just for being just that, women. It’s not only the feminist stuff though, I just want to make women feel better about themselves in a world that always tries to make them feel like they aren’t not good enough.

In particular I’ve always wanted to help women with their body image. I want to help them realize that they are worth SO much more than their appearance in the first place. And if they DO insist on putting so much emphasis on their appearance (as many of us do, myself included) I want to help them love and accept their bodies despite what society tells them they should look like. I want to help them love their bodies for what they can do, rather than whose eyes they can attract.

I want to help them better their characters and souls, instead of their hair color. I want to help them stop worrying about what people think of them so much. I want to help them realize that they do not absolutely need a partner and that they can be any sex or gender or any combination of the two they want to be! I want them to know that they don’t have to adhere to the gender roles that society still places on them today.

I want them to know they can express their sexuality and sensuality in whatever way that empowers them and makes them feel good. I want them to know they can be weak and vulnerable sometimes and that is OKAY.

Most of all, I want them to know that they are loved, that they have the ability to be strong, and that they are capable of anything. And ya know, I don’t even think I need to say anything anything else to them in this post because frankly, I think I already said what I wanted them to hear.

If you didn’t catch it, I’m supposed to be Sully in this gif thingy. Boo represents my readers.. Yeah, I’m new at the gif thing.. Whatever, I liked it and it was the “new-to-me” part of my assignment.

Note: In the past few years I have come to realize that the patriarchy has negative effects on men and boys as well as women and girls. I now know that not only women struggle with body image, but males do as well. So, I am just noting this because I do not want people to think I don’t understand some of these struggles exist within men too. However, I have just always had a passion for helping women overcome them ever since I was young and that is why I am choosing to address them foremost.

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Blogging 101: Who I Am and Why I’m Here!

 

 

Random Fact: I shaved my head in January and this is the succession of my hair growth over the past 8 months. 🙂

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Greetings!

I have decided to embark on a newbie blogger journey. I have done several random travel blogs in the past few years but nothing that I have wanted to sustain or keep up with until now. I started this blog a few months ago and still have very few followers and views. I am doing this little blogging class to get more experience and get some feed back on how to optimize my blogging and writing in general. The first assignment for this is just a little introduction which I will now delve into. Here are some of the questions they recommended I answer so I will just go ahead and utilize those.

Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?

Because I do keep a personal journal, and sometimes after I write something I think, “Man, I sort of want to share this thought with other people.” So I guess my desire for public writing comes from a sort of craving for a community of writers and thinkers. I also have people in my life who have told me they want to read my writing and since I don’t really plan on getting published anytime soon, (doubt I could) I think blogging is a really good way to get my ideas and sometimes rants out into the world for my friends and other people to read. I also think a big part of it is wanting feedback. Even though I haven’t got a ton of feedback so far, I think that is a big part of why I am doing the blog in general. I am used to being in school and writing essays every day (I was an English major) so I am used to professors and classmates giving me feedback on my ideas and writing and so in a way I crave that.

What topics do you think you’ll write about?

I don’t really know. This is one of the things I have struggled with determining. I am a feminist and a literary critic so I have a  feeling those topics will come up a lot but I don’t really want to pin it down to one or even two things because I don’t want to get to the point where I don’t feel like I can write random posts about my social media detox or why I prefer sweating in a gym and not in a forest because they don’t fit in with the theme or category of my blog. I realize that it is probably better for a blog to have a specific topic because then it has a certain audience to aim to but that just really isn’t what I want. So I really don’t know how to deal with that that but it is something I have been thinking about quite a bit and would like people’s feedback on.

Who would you love to connect with via your blog?

Other people passionate about the same things I am. Which, is actually a LOT of things. Reading. Writing. Feminism. Gardening. Permaculture. Education. Film. Cooking. Fitness. Traveling. There are just SO many things that I care about and am interested in. I want to connect with people who care about those things too. I want to be empowered by them and I want to do the same for them in return.

If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

I want to establish a fairly large follower base. Not because I want to promote myself so that I can get to some certain place in my career or anything like that, but because I want people to hear what I am saying and thinking. Because I think I have important things to say and not in a narcissistic, selfish way but in a confident, self-assured way. I want them to tell me if they agree with my thoughts or not. I want to stimulate discussion and enable powerful realizations. I want to share the overwhelmingly confusing and complex things that come into my head. I want to form a sense of community really. Because communities do good in the world. We cannot make improvements to this world by ourselves. And ultimately, if we aren’t trying to better ourselves and better the world, what are we doing here?

Why Ephemeral?

e·phem·er·al
əˈfem(ə)rəl
adjective
1.
lasting for a very short time;
short-lived; transitory

 

The first time I saw this word I think I was in my second year of college. I was proof reading a poem for one of my friends when I came across it. I realized that I had never seen it before, a realization that I absolutely love having, and so I looked it up right away. I immediately felt a connection to the word. Transitory, transient, fleeting, these were the synonyms I saw that just resonated with me so deeply. This word spoke to so much of who I was at the time, and still am. Physically and mentally, I am always seeking to move. One of my biggest motto’s in life is to never be stagnant. Never to stagnate in my growth as a person, never to stagnate in my learning, and to never stagnate in maintaining my relationships.

 

I have kind of been known in my family as the one who just really can’t stay put, and I like it that way. For the past four years, I have never been in one place for more than six months. I don’t really know what it is, I crave change and variation. So I guess in a physical sense this word directly describes me.

 

I think it is really interesting because one of the synonyms for the word ephemeral is transient, which I loved. It reminds me of the word fleeting which just seems so light and airy and free to me. Transient is such an interesting word though, because it has such a negative connotation. I can remember people in Missoula complaining with disgust, “Ugh, the transients are back”. They were referring to the nomads that pass through in the summer with their giant backpacks. There is just this crazy stigma about people who don’t settle in one place in this country. It seems to me that people think “Oh okay it is fine when you are young but once you hit a certain age, there are certain expectations”. Cue the judgmental looks that say, “Isn’t about time you start thinking about settling down? Isn’t it time for you to move out of your rebellious wild young phase into debilitating, boring routine life? Shouldn’t you be acting like a grown-up now?” Well guess what? I don’t want this phase to end. Stability sounds terrible to me right now. I understand some people want it and need it and that is okay but I don’t think this is just a phase for me. I think it is a part of my soul. I don’t want to ever settle because contentment breeds complacency and complacency breeds stagnation and stagnation breed mental paralysis. And that just breeds, ugh, gross. I am getting a weird feeling in my stomach just thinking about it.

 

I need to be moving and learning and seeing and feeling to breathe. How can you do that when you adhere to the rut of so-called normalcy? You can’t. Well, I can’t at least. So, there you go, that is why I love the word ephemeral and chose to name me and my blog after it. It represents constant change and fresh renewal and growth. Those are things I want to embody and expose myself to all the time.